We were supposed to go see a movie, but instead my friend needed to talk, so I had her over for dinner instead. I cooked a light meal of pasta and salad while we talked over wine. She’s been nearing the end of her relationship and I was sort of counselling her on the emotional stuff. Sometimes it’s really hard to see that there is life on the other side of a relationship breaking up. I tried to remind her of the good things that come after a break up, the things that I went through almost 2 years ago after my break up. I don’t think she is ready to let go yet, but I think hearing herself talk about the reality of her situation may have been good for her. I suppose she may not actually do the breaking up yet, but she’s slowly thinking about how to get there from where she is now. The conversation reminded me to appreciate the things in my single life that I’ve come to take for granted. My independence and lack of responsibility to a partner can be rather liberating when I remember how good that feels.
It was a good dinner for us both, and I’m happy that I could be there for a friend in need.